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Your Guide to Lowering Your High Blood Pressure

2006-09-21T21:09:00.000-07:00

Your Guide to Lowering Your High Blood Pressure

What Is Blood Pressure?

Blood pressure is the force of blood against the walls of arteries. Blood pressure is recorded as two numbers—the systolic pressure (as the heart beats) over the diastolic pressure (as the heart relaxes between beats). The measurement is written one above or before the other, with the systolic number on top and the diastolic number on the bottom. For example, a blood pressure measurement of 120/80 mmHg (millimeters of mercury) is expressed verbally as "120 over 80."

Normal blood pressure is less than 120 mmHg systolic and less than 80 mmHg diastolic.

High Blood Pressure

High blood pressure increases your chance (or risk) for getting heart disease and/or kidney disease, and for having a stroke. It is especially dangerous because it often has no warning signs or symptoms. Regardless of race, age, or gender, anyone can develop high blood pressure. It is estimated that one in every four American adults has high blood pressure. Once high blood pressure develops, it usually lasts a lifetime. You can prevent and control high blood pressure by taking action. In this section you will learn more about what high blood pressure is and what it does inside the body.

What Are High Blood Pressure and Prehypertension?

Blood pressure is the force of blood against the walls of arteries. Blood pressure rises and falls during the day. When blood pressure stays elevated over time, it is called high blood pressure.

The medical term for high blood pressure is hypertension. High blood pressure is dangerous because it makes the heart work too hard and contributes to atherosclerosis (hardening of the arteries). It increases the risk of heart disease and stroke, which are the first- and third-leading causes of death among Americans. High blood pressure also can result in other conditions, such as congestive heart failure, kidney disease, and blindness.

A blood pressure level of 140/90 mmHg or higher is considered high. About two-thirds of people over age 65 have high blood pressure. If your blood pressure is between 120/80 mmHg and 139/89 mmHg, then you have prehypertension. This means that you don't have high blood pressure now but are likely to develop it in the future. You can take steps to prevent high blood pressure by adopting a healthy lifestyle.

Those who do not have high blood pressure at age 55 face a 90 percent chance of developing it during their lifetimes. So high blood pressure is a condition that most people have at some point in their lives.Both numbers in a blood pressure test are important, but for people who are 50 or older, systolic pressure gives the most accurate diagnosis of high blood pressure. Systolic pressure is the top number in a blood pressure reading. It is high if it is 140 mmHg or above.

What is systolic blood pressure?

Systolic pressure is the force of blood in the arteries as the heart beats. It is shown as the top number in a blood pressure reading. High blood pressure is 140 and higher for systolic pressure. Diastolic pressure does not need to be high for you to have high blood pressure. When that happens, the condition is called "isolated systolic hypertension," or ISH.

Is isolated systolic high blood pressure common?

Yes. It is the most common form of high blood pressure for older Americans. For most Americans, systolic blood pressure increases with age, while diastolic increases until about age 55 and then declines. About 65 percent of hypertensives over age 60 have ISH. You may have ISH and feel fine. As with other types of high blood pressure, ISH often causes no symptoms. To find out if you have ISH — or any type of high blood pressure — see your doctor and have a blood pressure test. The test is quick and painless.

Is isolated systolic high blood pressure dangerous?

Any form of high blood pressure is dangerous if not properly treated. Both numbers in a blood pressure test are important, but, for some, the systolic is especially meaningful. That's because, for those persons middle aged and older, systolic pressure gives a better diagnosis of high blood pressure.

If left uncontrolled, high systolic pressure can lead to stroke, heart attack, congestive heart failure, kidney damage, blindness, or other conditions. While it cannot be cured once it has developed, ISH can be controlled.

Clinical studies have proven that treating a high systolic pressure saves lives, greatly reduces illness, and improves the quality of life. Yet, most Americans do not have their high systolic pressure under control.

Does it require special treatment?

Treatment options for ISH are the same as for other types of high blood pressure, in which both systolic and diastolic pressures are high. ISH is treated with lifestyle changes and/or medications. The key for any high blood pressure treatment is to bring the condition under proper control. Blood pressure should be controlled to less than 140/90 mmHg. If yours is not, then ask your doctor why. You may just need a lifestyle or drug change, such as reducing salt in your diet or adding a second medication.

What is diastolic blood pressure?

Diastolic pressure is the force of blood in the arteries as the heart relaxes between beats. It's shown as the bottom number in a blood pressure reading.

The diastolic blood pressure has been and remains, especially for younger people, an important hypertension number. The higher the diastolic blood pressure the greater the risk for heart attacks, strokes and kidney failure. As people become older, the diastolic pressure will begin to decrease and the systolic blood pressure begins to rise and becomes more important. A rise in systolic blood pressure will also increase the chance for heart attacks, strokes, and kidney failure. Your physician will use both the systolic and the diastolic blood pressure to determine your blood pressure category and appropriate prevention and treatment activities.

Why Is High Blood Pressure Important?

High blood pressure is dangerous because it makes the heart work too hard. It also makes the walls of the arteries hard. High blood pressure increases the risk for heart disease and stroke, the first- and third-leading causes of death for Americans. High blood pressure can also cause other problems, such as heart failure, kidney disease, and blindness.

Risk Factors

Risk factors are behaviors or conditions that can increase your chances of developing a disease. For instance, high blood pressure is a risk factor for heart disease and stroke.

There are other risk factors for heart disease and stroke. Most can be modified, though some cannot. The more risk factors you have, the greater your chances of developing disease. So it is important to take steps to prevent or control these risk factors.

Heart disease and stroke risk factors that can be controlled are:

High blood pressure (hypertension)
Abnormal cholesterol
Tobacco use
Diabetes
Overweight
Physical inactivity

Risk factors beyond your control are:

Age (55 years and older for men and 65 years or older for women)
Family history of early heart disease (having a mother or sister who has been diagnosed with heart disease before age 65, or a father or brother diagnosed before age 55) or family history of stroke

What Causes High Blood Pressure?

The causes of high blood pressure vary. Causes may include narrowing of the arteries, a greater than normal volume of blood, or the heart beating faster or more forcefully than it should. Any of these conditions will cause increased pressure against theartery walls. High blood pressure might also be caused by another medical problem. Most of the time, the cause is not known. Although high blood pressure usually cannot be cured, in most cases it can be prevented and controlled.

Who Can Develop High Blood Pressure?

High blood pressure is common. About 65 million American adults — nearly 1 in 3 — have high blood pressure. It is very common in African Americans, who may get it earlier in life and more often than whites. Many Americans tend to develop high blood pressure as they get older, but this is not a part of healthy aging. Middle-aged Americans face a 90% chance of developing high blood pressure during their lives. Others at risk for developing high blood pressure are the overweight, those with a family history of high blood pressure, and those with prehypertension (120–139/80–89 mmHg).

African Americans

High blood pressure occurs more often among African Americans than whites. It begins at an earlier age and is usually more severe. Further, African Americans have a higher death rate from stroke and kidney disease than whites. The good news is, treatment can control high blood pressure. In addition, lifestyle changes can prevent and control high blood pressure. These include losing weight if overweight (losing 10 lbs can help), increasing physical activity (walking 30 minutes per day can help), following a healthy eating plan, that emphasizes fruits, vegetables, and lowfat dairy foods, choosing and preparing foods with less salt and sodium, and if you drink alcoholic beverages, drinking in moderation. If lifestyle changes alone are not effective in keeping your blood pressure controlled, there are many blood pressure medications to help you.

High Blood Pressure Detection

You can find out if you have high blood pressure by having your blood pressure checked regularly. Most doctors will diagnose a person with high blood pressure on the basis of two or more readings, taken on several occasions. A consistent blood pressure reading of 140/90 mmHg or higher is considered high blood pressure, another term for hypertension.

Some people experience high blood pressure only when they visit the doctor's office. This condition is called "white-coat hypertension." If your doctor suspects this, you may be asked to monitor your blood pressure at home or asked to wear a device called an ambulatory blood pressure monitor. This device is usually worn for 24 hours and can take blood pressure every 30 minutes. In this section you will learn more about diagnosing high blood pressure.

How do I know if I have high blood pressure?

High blood pressure often has no signs or symptoms. The only way to find out if you have high blood pressure is to be tested for it. Using the familiar blood pressure cuff, your doctor or nurse can easily tell if your blood pressure is high.

How Is Blood Pressure Tested?

Having your blood pressure tested is quick and easy. Blood pressure is measured in millimeters of mercury (mmHg) and recorded as two numbers systolic pressure "over" diastolic pressure. For example, the doctor or nurse might say "130 over 80" as a blood pressure reading.

Both numbers in a blood pressure reading are important. As we grow older, systolic blood pressure is especially important.

To test your blood pressure, your doctor will use a familiar device with a long name. It is called a sphygmomanometer (pronounced sfig'-mo-ma-nom-e-ter), and may look something like this:

Some blood pressure testing devices use electronic instruments or digital readouts. In these cases, the blood pressure reading appears on a small screen or is signaled in beeps, and no stethoscope is used.

Tips for Having Your Blood Pressure Taken

Don't drink coffee or smoke cigarettes 30 minutes before having your blood pressure measured.
Before the test, sit for five minutes with your back supported and your feet flat on the ground.
Rest your arm on a table at the level of your heart.
Wear short sleeves so your arm is exposed.
Go to the bathroom prior to the reading. A full bladder can change your blood pressure reading.
Get two readings, taken at least two minutes apart, and average the results. Ask the doctor or nurse to tell you the blood pressure reading in numbers.

Categories for Blood Pressure Levels in Adults (Ages 18 Years and Older)

Blood Pressure Level (mmHg)	Category	Systolic		Diastolic
Normal	<>	and	<>
Prehypertension	120-139	or	80-89
High Blood Pressure
Stage 1 Hypertension	140–159	or	90–99
Stage 2 Hypertension	160	or	100

When systolic and diastolic blood pressures fall into different categories, the higher category should be used to classify blood pressure level. For example, 160/80 mmHg would be stage 2 hypertension (high blood pressure).

What device can I use to take my own blood pressure?

Tests at home can be done with the familiar blood pressure cuff and a stethoscope, or with an electronic monitor, such as a digital readout monitor. Also, be sure that the person who will use the device reads the instructions before taking blood pressure readings. Your doctor, nurse, or pharmacist can help you check the device and teach you how to use it. You also may ask for their help in choosing the right one for you. Blood pressure devices can be bought at various places, such as discount chain stores and pharmacies.

Prevention

You can take steps to prevent high blood pressure by adopting a healthy lifestyle. These steps include maintaining a healthy weight; being physically active; following a healthy eating plan, that emphasizes fruits, vegetables, and lowfat dairy foods; choosing and preparing foods with less salt and sodium; and, if you drink alcoholic beverages, drinking in moderation. In this section you will learn more about healthy lifestyle habits for preventing and controlling high blood pressure.

Healthy Eating

Research has shown that following a healthy eating plan can both reduce the risk of developing high blood pressure and lower an already elevated blood pressure.

For an overall eating plan, consider the DASH eating plan. "DASH" stands for "Dietary Approaches to Stop Hypertension," a clinical study that tested the effects of nutrients in food on blood pressure. Study results indicated that elevated blood pressures were reduced by an eating plan that emphasizes fruits, vegetables, and lowfat dairy foods and is low in saturated fat, total fat, and cholesterol. The DASH eating plan includes whole grains, poultry, fish, and nuts and has reduced amounts of fats, red meats, sweets, and sugared beverages.

A second clinical study, called "DASH-Sodium," looked at the effect of a reduced dietary sodium intake on blood pressure as people followed either the DASH eating plan or a typical American diet. Results showed that reducing dietary sodium lowered blood pressure for both the DASH eating plan and the typical American diet. The biggest blood pressure-lowering benefits were for those eating the DASH eating plan at the lowest sodium level (1,500 milligrams per day).

The DASH-Sodium study shows the importance of lowering sodium intake whatever your diet. But for a true winning combination, follow the DASH eating plan and lower your intake of salt and sodium.

Reduce Salt and Sodium in Your Diet

A key to healthy eating is choosing foods lower in salt and sodium. Most Americans consume more salt than they need. The current recommendation is to consume less than 2.4 grams (2,400 milligrams [mg]) of sodium a day. That equals 6 grams (about 1 teaspoon) of table salt a day. The 6 grams include ALL salt and sodium consumed, including that used in cooking and at the table. For someone with high blood pressure, the doctor may advise eating less salt and sodium, as recent research has shown that people consuming diets of 1,500 mg of sodium had even better blood pressure lowering benefits. These lower-sodium diets also can keep blood pressure from rising and help blood pressure medicines work better.

Maintaining a Healthy Weight

Being overweight increases your risk of developing high blood pressure. In fact, blood pressure rises as body weight increases. Losing even 10 pounds can lower blood pressure — and it has the greatest effect for those who are overweight and already have hypertension.

Being overweight or obese are also risk factors for heart disease. They increase your chance for developing high blood cholesterol and diabetes — two more major risk factors for heart disease.

Physical Activity

Being physically active is one of the most important steps you can take to prevent or control high blood pressure. It also helps reduce your risk of heart disease. It doesn't take a lot of effort to become physically active.

Limit Alcohol Intake

Drinking too much alcohol can raise blood pressure. It also can harm the liver, brain, and heart. Alcoholic drinks also contain calories, which matter if you are trying to lose weight. If you drink alcoholic beverages, have only a moderate amount — one drink a day for women; two drinks a day for men.

What counts as a drink?

12 ounces of beer (regular or light, 150 calories), or 5 ounces of wine (100 calories), or 1 ounces of 80-proof whiskey (100 calories).

Quitting Smoking

Smoking injures blood vessel walls and speeds up the process of hardening of the arteries. This applies even to filtered cigarettes. So even though it does not cause high blood pressure, smoking is bad for anyone, especially those with high blood pressure. If you smoke, quit. If you don't smoke, don't start. Once you quit, your risk of having a heart attack is reduced after the first year. So you have a lot to gain by quitting.

Q&A on Other Factors Affecting Blood Pressure

Do Vitamin Mineral Supplements such as Potassium, Calcium or Magnesium Help Lower Blood Pressure?

So far, research has shown that potassium does lower blood pressure. Studies have not indicated that calcium and magnesium supplements prevent high blood pressure. Here's the latest:

Potassium helps to prevent and control blood pressure. Be sure to get enough potassium in the foods you eat. Some good sources are various fruits,vegetables, dairy foods, and fish.

Food	Serving Size	Potassium (mg)
Apricots, dried	10 halves	407
Avocados, raw	1 ounce	180
Bananas, raw	1 cup	594
Beets, cooked	1 cup	519
Brussel sprouts, cooked	1 cup	504
Cantaloupe	1 cup	494
Dates, dry	5 dates	271
Figs, dry	2 figs	271
Kiwi fruit, raw	1 medium	252
Lima beans	1 cup	955
Melons, honeydew	1 cup	461
Milk, fat free or skim	1 cup	407
Nectarines	1 nectarine	288
Orange juice	1 cup	496
Oranges	1 orange	237
Pears (fresh)	1 pear	208
Peanuts dry roasted, without salt	1 ounce	187
Potatoes, baked, flesh and skin	1 potato	1081
Prune juice	1 cup	707
Prunes, dried	1 cup	828
Raisins	1 cup	1089
Spinach, cooked	1 cup	839
Tomato products, canned, sauce	1 cup	909
Winter squash	1 cup	896
Yogurt plain, skim milk	8 ounces	579

Values were obtained from the USDA Nutrient Database for Standard References, Release 15 for Potassium, K (mg) content of selected foods per common measure

Calcium and Magnesium . These nutrients have not been consistently shown to prevent high blood pressure, but are important nutrients for overall good health.

Good sources of calcium are diary foods such as milk, yogurt, and cheese. Be sure to choose skim or lowfat varieties. Lowfat and nonfat dairy products have more calcium than the high fat versions.

Food	Serving Size	Calcium (mg)
Broccoli, raw	1 cup	42
Cheese, cheddar	1 oz	204
Milk, fat free or skim	1 cup	301
Perch	3 oz	>116
Salmon	3 oz	181
Sardine	3 oz	325
Spinach, cooked	1 cup	245
Turnip greens, cooked	1 cup	197
Tofu, soft	1 piece	133
Yogurt plain, skim milk	8 oz container	452

Values were obtained from the USDA Nutrient Database for Standard References, Release 15 for Calcium, Ca (mg) content of selected foods per common measure.

You should get enough magnesium if you follow a healthy diet. Magnesium is found in whole grains, green leafy vegetables, nuts, and dry peas and beans

Peacemakers who changed the world -International Peace Day

2006-09-20T23:56:00.000-07:00

Peacemakers who changed the world
September 21 - International Peace Day

They came, they saw and they conquered - with peace and hope. Read about the champions of world peace.

Beacon of hope - Mother Theresa

Born an Albanian, the story of Agnes Gonxha Bojaxhiu, better know as Mother Theresa to the world, is one of grit, determination, and divine calling. By the age of 12, little Agnus had decided that she wanted to be a missionary to spread the love of Christ. Mission work brought her to Calcutta but it was the misery and poverty of the poorest of the poor that moved her. She had finally discovered her true calling and working for the downtrodden and the less fortunate was to become the purpose of her life. In 1950, Mother Teresa received permission from the Holy See to start her own order, “The Missionaries of Charity”. She breathed love, life, and hope into millions. Awards came seeking but her comment was, “I am doing my duty, what God wanted me to do”. Mother Theresa was awarded the Nobel Prize for peace in 1979, but for her the true reward was her satisfaction.

He had a dream - Martin Luther King

He taught them the power of dreams and they sang along with him “I have a dream”. In 1950’s when America was seething under civil rife and racism, Martin Luther King became the voice of the oppressed blacks seeking equal citizenship, through non violence. Always a strong worker for civil rights for members of his race, King imbibed his ideals from Christianity and his operational techniques from Gandhi. He traveled far and wide preaching for justice and equality. He led a massive protest in Birmingham that caught the attention of the entire world. His inspiring “Letter from a Birmingham Jail" became the manifesto of the black revolution. At the age of thirty-five, Martin Luther King, Jr., was the youngest man to have received the Nobel Peace Prize. Martin Luther King was not just an American black leader but also the voice of all the oppressed and the downtrodden millions across the world.

Peace personified - Mahatma Gandhi

Born in Gujarat, Mohan Das Karamchand Gandhi was the spiritual and political leader of British India. He rose to prominence as the face of Indian independence during the British regime, but his weapons were that of ahimsa - non violence. Gandhi employed means like Satyagraha and civil disobedience movements to gain India’s independence. India was granted independence in 1947, and partitioned into India and Pakistan. Rioting between Hindus and Muslims followed and Gandhi began a fast to stop the bloodshed. After five days, the opposing leaders pledged to stop the fighting and Gandhi broke his fast. Twelve days later he was assassinated by a Hindu fanatic who opposed his program of tolerance for all creeds and religion. On his demise Albert Einstein, the famous physicist remarked, “Generations to come will scarce believe that such a one as this walked the earth in flesh and blood.”

Battling for peace - Aung San Suu Ki

Burma’s hope for freedom, Suu Ki is the daughter of Aung San, who is regarded as the founder of modern Myanmar. Suu ki lived outside the country after 1960 and on her return in 1988, she joined the opposition. She soon rose to prominence and her criticisms on Myanmar’s military dictatorship earned her the wrath of the authorities. Suu Ki was confined to house arrest for nine years. Though her party won the majority in the elections, the military refused to yield power and her house arrest was extended. Nonetheless, she stayed in Myanmar, continuing to write and speak for her cause. Suu Ki was awarded the Nobel Prize for peace that year and she continues to wage her peaceful battle for peace in Burma.

A life less ordinary - Nelson Mandela

“I have fought against white domination, and I have fought against black domination. I have cherished the ideal of a free society. It is an ideal which I hope to live for and to achieve. But if need be, it is an ideal for which I am prepared to die,” he said. Starting as an African National Congress youth league member and rising to the president of South Africa, Mandela’s is a long saga of suffering and trials. A strict anti-apartheid activist Mandela was banned, imprisoned, and arrested many times. Mandela was sentenced to life imprisonment and spent his long prison years in the notorious Robben Island Prison until he was eventually released in 1990. Mandela never wavered in his devotion to democracy, equality and learning. He was known for his strict adherence to peace for peace. Mandela was awarded the Nobel Prize in 1993, a small recognition for his great efforts.

Pilgrim of peace - Dalai Lama

“My religion doesn’t need temples and complicated philosophy. Our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.” Dalai Lama, the spiritual leader of Tibet lives up to his principals. His efforts to liberate Tibet from the clutches of China ignited the fire of freedom in Tibetans. Though the uprising was brutally crushed by the Chinese army and the Dalai Lama had to seek refuge in India, he continues to be the lone hope for freedom for the Tibetans. In 1989, the Dalai Lama was awarded the Nobel Prize for peace. It may take a little while for the flag of freedom to flutter in the mountain kingdom but it surely will – because there is a pilgrim who works for it, in the best way possible way, through love, kindness, and compassion.

On a passionate Mission - Kofi Annan

Born in Ghana, Kofi Annan is the seventh Secretary-General of the United Nations. He is also the first to be elected from the ranks of UN staff. Mr. Annan joined the UN in 1962 and though he held senior positions in a diverse range of areas, the mantle of responsibilities always sought him with regard to peace negotiations and settlements. Annan may not be an orator of peace, you will not find him inspiring millions to rise up for peace or lead from the front. He goes about his job in a quiet way through his work field by meeting people, studying their problems and through negotiations. Kofi Annan received the Nobel Prize for peace in 2001. He is definitely one of the leaders of world peace who could rise above color, caste, and creed to see humanity as the larger entity. According to him, “We may have different religions, languages, and skin, but we all belong to one human race”.

For peace and Palestine - Yaseer Arafat

A Noble peace prize winner, Palestinian political leader and president, Yaseer Arafat occupied the center stage of Middle East politics for almost four decades. The Palestinian movement was almost entirely Arafat's creation of which he assumed the leadership at a very young age. Arafat took it through a dizzying series of crises and defeats but also ensured its survival and influence. The best part of the movement was that it disavowed terrorism and followed the path of peace for peace. Arafat’s life was a relentless struggle for Palestine and though he died with his dream unfulfilled, Arafat ignited hope and optimism in the heart of many a Palestinian.

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Who are they?

2006-09-19T20:13:00.000-07:00

Who are they?

They are Doctors

Who is he?

Who is he

He is an actor

Who are these people?

They are farmers.

Fine.. Very Good. What about these guys? Who are they? Guess!!!!

Any Guess !!!!!!!!!!!!

Yeah.. They are SOFTWARE ENGINEERS.

Don't laugh. Be Aware. It is a global issue now. So, take care of yourself

(Pictures are for illustration purpose only. Not specifically mentioning anyone)

Astronomers find distant, fluffy planet

2006-09-14T20:52:00.000-07:00

Astronomers find distant, fluffy planet WASHINGTON - The largest planet ever found orbiting another star is so puffy it would float on water, astronomers said Thursday. The newly discovered planet, dubbed HAT-P-1, is both the largest and least dense of the nearly 200 worlds astronomers have found outside our own solar system.

HAT-P-1 orbits one of a pair of stars in the constellation Lacerta, about 450 light-years from Earth.

"This new planet, if you could imagine putting it in a cosmic water glass, it would float," said Robert Noyes, a research astrophysicist with the Smithsonian Astrophysical Observatory. The planet, a gas giant, is probably a puffed up ball of hydrogen and helium.

HAT-P-1 is an oddball planet, since it orbits its parent star at just one-twentieth of the distance that separates Earth from our own sun. While Earth takes a year to orbit the sun, the newly found planet whips around its star once every 4.5 days.

Astronomers believe HAT-P-1 may belong to an entirely new class of planets, along with a second, smaller distant world that's also puffier than theories would have predicted, Noyes said.

Astronomers used a network of telescopes in Arizona and Hawaii to discover the planet. Its parent star is too faint to see with the naked eye but can be spied with binoculars.

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On the Net:

Harvard-Smithsonian Center for Astrophysics: http://www.cfa.harvard.edu/
Extracted from : http://news.yahoo.com

Surya jyothika marriage pics

2006-09-11T00:57:00.000-07:00

Surya Jyothika marriage pics

50 terabyte DVDs?

2006-08-21T05:12:00.000-07:00

50 terabyte DVDs?

that’s a lot of space on one DVD. how much? it’s a bit hard to grasp. but 50 terabytes is the same as 51,200 gigabytes, or rather equivalent to 10,893 DVDs (@ 4.7 gigabytes each). completely amazing. these super high capacity DVDs it seems are closer to reality. Professor V. Renugopalakrishnan of the harvard medical school developed a disc with a layer of genetically altered proteins called bacteriorhodopsin that makes the mega-storage 50 terabyte DVDs possible. the proteins are only nano meters across so a lot can fit on the surface of a DVD disc. when light shines on bacteriorhodopsin, it is converted to a series of intermediate molecules - each with a unique shape and colour before returning to its original form or ‘ground state’. this is the basis for the binary code for such storage, with the molecular conversion of intermediate molecules being the one and the ‘ground state’ being the zero. Prof Renu gopalakrishnan and his colleagues genetically modified the DNA that produces bacteriorhodopsin protein to produce an intermediate state that lasts for more than several years. the finding were presented at the 2006 International Conference On Nanoscience and Nanotechnology. there is more to read about it from articles on engaget and also digital video guru.

PEOPLE COME INTO YOUR LIFE FOR A REASON

2006-06-21T19:00:00.000-07:00

PEOPLE COME INTO YOUR LIFE FOR A REASON

I am sending this to you to see how many actually read their e-mail. Your response will be interesting. Pay attention to what you read. After you have finished reading it, you will know the reason it was sent to you. Here goes:

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real . But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant .

Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.

Telephone Manners

2006-06-12T09:38:00.000-07:00

Telephone Manners

Q. What is the proper way to answer the phone?
A. When answering the phone at your desk say..."Hello, this is Mr. Smith" Do not say phrases such as "Mr. Smith here!" or simply "Hello".

Q. Is it necessary to apologize for not immediately returning a phone call that had been originally initiated by yourself?
A. All telephone calls should be promptly returned, regardless of who initiated the original phone call.

Q. What is the polite way to leave a voice mail message?
A. Repeat your name and telephone number twice when leaving a voice mail message.

Q. Is it rude to use your cell phone in a social environment?
A. Always use discretion when using a cellular phone in a social environment; refrain from placing cell phone calls and only answer cellular calls after excusing yourself from the immediate area.

Q. Are speakerphones rude?
A. No, simply ask permission before putting a person on the telephone's speakerphone. Phone etiquette telephone etiquette telephone manners phone manners

Q. What is the proper etiquette when using CALLER ID?
A. When using CALLER ID, avoid greeting a caller by using his name before he says "Hello" and identifies himself.

Q. Who calls back when disconnected on the telephone?
A. When there is poor telephone connection or when you are disconnected, the individual who originated/initiated the call is responsible for calling back the other party.

Q. If you have received a phone call from someone whose number you did not have originally, but it was captured on Caller ID (no message was left on your voice mail) is it inappropriate to call the person back?
A. No, it is appropriate to call someone back only when he or she requests a call back and leaves their return phone number.

Q. When receiving a telephone call at work, should you say the name of the company?
A. If you are answering the telephone at a business, it is polite to state the company’s name in your greeting.

Q. What is the best way to utilize a home-office (SOHO) telephone system?
A. If you have a home-based business...Install a second line for business-use only and have an automatic answering system that picks up automatically if you are on the other line. Therefore, eliminating busy signals and portraying a professional image to your clients.

Friends and Friendship

2006-06-01T15:45:00.000-07:00

Friends and Friendship
by Dr. Bill Denton

A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. (Proverbs 17:17)
You can always tell a real friend: when you've made a fool of yourself, he doesn't feel you've done a permanent job. (Laurence J. Peter)

A lot of people go through life with only a few friends. It seems that some have less than that. They have no one on whom they can call in good times or bad. There is no one with whom to bounce ideas around, or to talk about deep and troubling subjects. They have no one to call in times of need or difficulty. They are at the mercy of life, standing alone.

Others seem to have a multitude of friends. Wherever they go, people know them, and like to be around them. Should trouble strike, their biggest hesitation might be over which friend to call. They know exactly the person with whom to discuss the topics of inquiry and debate. Life is full of entertaining and invigorating relationships because it is full of friends.

There ought to be a course in school on friendship. Of course, some people are perfectly happy to operate with fewer friends. They might rather have a few deep and loyal friends, than many superficial ones. Others thrive best when friends are everywhere and numerous. It is not so much the number of friends that is important as is the possession of friends, period.

Friendship is a blessing, and a friend is the channel through whom great emotional, spiritual, and sometimes even physical blessings flow. Friends can cheer us when we're sorrowful or depressed. Friends can challenge us when we allow ourselves to get beyond our reasonable boundaries. Friends can motivate us when we're ready to give in, and they can provide for us when life falls apart. They are there when all is well, and we want someone with whom to share life's pleasant and memorable moments. We often just want them around to have a good time, to laugh, to act silly, to enjoy some mutually liked activity. In how many ways have friends enriched our lives and made us feel loved, accepted, respected and cared for? Probably, too many to list, and the list grows daily.

It is safe to say that when God created the world and all the majestic things in it, when he streaked the heavens with radiant color and the earth with grand mountains and awe-inspiring canyons, when he painted the plains with waving grasses and erected noble forests of towering trees, he outdid it all by creating friends. Why not take a moment or two and thank someone today for being a friend to you?

May God bless you with all the friends you need, and may he turn you into a blessing by using you as a friend to others.

Posted: 03/01/2003
URL: http://www.heartlight.org/articles/200303/20030301_friends.html

Just Friends VS. Best Friends

2006-05-20T16:16:00.000-07:00

SO YOU ARE MY JUST FRIEND OR BEST FRIEND............

Just Friends VS. Best Friends

A Just Friend says..hi,..hello,..bye,...and walks away...
A Best friend always stop by your side & asks how r u doing ??

A Just Friend has never seen you cry.
A Best friend has shoulders soggy from your tears.

A Just Friend thinks the friendship is over, when you have an argument.
A Best friend knows that it's not a friendship, until after you've had a fight.

A Just Friend hates it when you call, after he has gone to bed.
A Best friend asks you.... why you took so long to call.

A Just Friend, when visiting, acts like a guest.
A Best friend opens your refrigerator and helps himself .

A Just Friend jealous about your romantic history.
A Best friend wonders of your love story.....

A Just Friend expects you to be always there for any help.
A Best friend is always there, wherever you require any help.

A Just Friend doesn't have time in his/her busy schedule,
A Best friend always have time for you in his/her busy schedules....

A Just Friend phones you whenever he/she has some work,
A Best friend calls you often just to hear your voice.....

A Just Friend doesnt have anything to talk to you on phone,
A Best friend doesnt know...what all to finish...

Birthday Date Meanings

2006-05-14T20:09:00.000-07:00

Birth day Date Meanings

Is your birthday day 1 of the month?

Your Life
You are very curious and dedicative. When you are interested in something, everything else has to wait. This is your quality. But if you learn to Be more patient and complete what you have started, you will be successful in life.

Your Love
You believe in love at first sight. You won't wait to learn more about the person. Vise versa, people who fail to impress you will hardly get a chance to be your friend. Your emotion is on the extreme. You can only love or hate, nothing in between and this often shows in your ________expression. Try not to end a relationship in a quarrel.

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Is your birthday day 2 of the month?

Your Life
You have great common sense but usually fail to follow through. This might happens because you are too busy with your mission and shut yourself from the outside world. You are clever and profound so there's a slight chance for self-control problem.

Your Love
Your love progress slowly, and quietly. You seem to be contented with your unrequited love. Your are a romantic and loyal lover.
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Is your birthday day 3 of the month?

Your Life
Although you are innocent and romantic but your ________expression often mislead others that you are an active, fun loving kid. Because of your double personality, it's hard for others to really know the real you. You are careful and patient.

Your Love
Your love is the greatest which often surprises others. No one can bring you to light when you are in love. Your confidence might lead you to the track your parents disagree .
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Is your birthday day 4 of the month?

Your Life
You usually think before acting which makes your life quite easy. But you often are the one who give yourself a hard time by being paranoid. People might not truly understand you but you are really nice to be around. You are cheerful and friendly.

Your Love
Still water runs deep, that's what you are. You always surprise others with your new character when you are in love. Your love trap often comes unexpectedly and your love life is full of surprises.
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Is your birthday day 5 of the month?

Your Life
Although you are on the quiet side, but you enjoy excitement and changes. Routine is something you cannot stand. Because of your extreme confidence, you hardly ask others for opinion. You believe in leading your own life, and you have got the gift in doing so.

Your Love
Nothing can stop you from making progress in your love life. Once you are in love, you feel the ownership of your lover. A third party can only makes your jealousy becomes worse.
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Is your birthday day 6 of the month?

Your Life
You are generous with people in need, sometimes to an extreme that people find you nosey. Your hidden courage and dedication often surprise others. Your imagination is extremely unique.

Your Love
Your love life is on the smooth track because it grows from friendship.Although you may not make a sweet lover but your sincerity bring happiness to your couple.
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Is your birthday day 7 of the month?

Your Life
You are sensitive to changes around you but your feeling is hardly expressed. You hate exaggerations. Under your quiet personality, you are rather stubborn and self-centered. These qualities are the force behind your extreme persistence.

Your Love
You have enormous courage to please your lover. Your relationship often progress quickly.
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Is your birthday day 8 of the month?

Your Life
You have pleasant and friendly personality. People look u to your wit and imagination. You are unpredictable and hardly complete what you started, which sometimes create negative impact to people around you.

Your Love
Falling in love becomes your routine. Most of the time you are lucky. You fascinate people with good taste but you never have enough with one. Although your love progresses very fast, it never lasts.
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Is your birthday day 9 of the month?

Your Life
You often have problem in promoting yourself, just because you don't know how to express your true self. On the other hand, you don't really care what they think. This is why people misunderstand you until they really get a chance to learn about your pleasant personality. Opposite sex find you mysterious and worth searching. Your wit is remarkable but sometimes you are too fast to follow.

Your Love
You won't reveal your feeling even after dreaming about the same guy over and over. Your first love lasts forever. You are responsible to the feeling of your lover. The chance to betray your lover is none. You have luck with children. You Will be Happy Always with u r Love Marraige. and she
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Is your birthday day 10 of the month?

Your Life
You are very capable. If you are a woman, you have high chance to be a renowned workingwoman. If you are a man, your path to fame and honor is near. As an innovator, you are not a good follower. You are good in implementing your imagination and share it with others. You are always well dressed.

Your Love
You often lose your love ones from being too jealous. You always feel like you own the person you fall in love with and that often blows your relationship.
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Is your birthday day 11 of the month?

Your Life
You are gracious, elegant and prudent. People admire your qualities and some even become jealous of you. You are realistic, flexible and adaptable. You are remarkably kind and moral person.

Your Love
You are willing to sacrifice yourself for the one you love. Your lover will always have your gentleness, care and loyalty. You will always be happy to hand around the one you love.
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Is your birthday day 12 of the month?

Your Life
You are friendly, humorous and full of energy. You are open-minded and do not care for minor details. Your weak point is your hot temper.

Your Love
You are willing to start off in one-sided love affairs because you strongly believe that you will eventually win his/her heart. On the other hand, once you are together, you always want to do things your way, which is often the fire starter. You usually run in and out of love quickly.
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Is your birthday day 13 of the month?

Your Life
You are sincere and easy going. Flattering and charming around are not your style. You care so much for freedom that often leads you to the difficult path. Because of your sincerity, most people find you easy to be around although you are sometimes too straightforward.

Your Love
Your gentleness, care and sincerity make you an attractive person. Eventhough you don't intend to be charming, but you naturally are, especially in the eyes of opposite sex.
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Is your birthday day 14 of the month?

Your Life
You are so confident that sometimes you forget about the people around you. If you have to be in one of the two teams, you will choose to be in the winning team. On the other hand, you are kind and caring but above all, you care for your own benefits. Your imagination is unique and often gets implemented shortly after it comes across.

Your Love
You will not get soft with the one you don't really like, no matter how hard he/she tries. But once you feel for someone you have chosen, there's no getting back.
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Is your birthday day 15 of the month?

Your Life
You are outgoing and love to be at the center of attention. From the outside, you may seem flashy, flirty, and tricky but your true self is strong, full of hope to be the leader. When you fail to convince someone, you will get frustrated, and perhaps let your temper shows.

Your Love
You are emotional. Many can win your heart at once, but not for long. This is why you hardly win a decent relationship.
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Is your birthday day 16 of the month?

Your Life
You always follow the good and the right instead of listening to your heart. Another word, you are a perfectionist. You care for every word people say about you. You often seen isolated while you are, by nature, curious and a dreamer who is ready to get over the edge to make your dream comes true.

Your Love
You often fall in love with a person who is much different from you, in age and other aspects. Your relationship grows on friendship. Love at fist sight is not your style.
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Is your birthday day 17 of the month?

Your Life
You neither want to be interfered nor have the desire to mess with others' life. But you are friendly and occasionally a party animal. You are always in a circle of friends. You often do things in your own way that occasionally go beyond the acceptable limit. People may find you childish and not very attractive in that sense.

Your Love
Your fun-loving character attracts opposite sex. Many of those are great. You often find yourself trapped among a few great guys while you have to choose only one.
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Is your birthday day 18 of the month?

Your Life
At first glance, people think you are quiet type of person. Actually you are cheerful, but conditionally. You will show your joyful character only in good mood. One the other hand, when you are moody, no one would dare to be around. Because of your emotion fluctuation and frank character, some find you hard to be around.

Your Love
You hardly show your feeling towards opposite sex no matter how much you like him/her. Your partner also has similar character so your love affairs often take quite a while to flourish. Time tells it all. Your sincerity makes you very attractive.
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Is your birthday day 19 of the month?

Your Life
You are great in managing everything in your life and this is how you gain respect from others. Because of this quality, you sometimes feel that you are better than the rest. Extreme confidence might lead you to the wrong path. You are a free bird and want to lead your own life.

Your Love
You love life is rather different from others'. When you are in love, nothing can stop you. You may often fight with your partner but, soon after that, you will make up in a way that surprises others.
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Is your birthday day 20 of the month?

Your Life
You are prudent, circumspect and take things seriously. Before you make any move, you will think of a few alternatives that might take a while. You are patient, imaginative and target oriented. You value friendship more than anything else.

Your Love
You usually study your partner carefully before making any move. You never demand anything beyond the natural quality of that person. Your sincerity doesn't bring excitement in your love life but it brings deeply grown relationship.
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Is your birthday day 21 of the month?

Your Life
You are curious and a true follower. You can please someone so much that it seem like you are trying to charm that person. You hide your disagreement under your smiling face. This is a charming quality of yours.

Your Love
You are quite unlucky in love. You are loved by someone you don't like while your dream man is so far away. Your love life is occasionally under turbulence. Sometimes you don't have the clear view of the guy in your heart.
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Is your birthday day 22 of the month?

Your Life
You have the boss character, but not a leader. Most people look up to you for your capability and confidence although they find you quite stubborn. You should listen more to others. You are a unique and charming individual.

Your Love
You hardly take the moderate track. You either love or hate someone. Whom you call friends are the chosen ones. If any of them betray you, you won't let them get away without having hard time.
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Is your birthday day 23 of the month?

Your Life
You never live your life in the way others want you to. You are an independent individual who loves challenges and excitement. You are ready to face with the result of your decision. You are usually the one your friends count on.

Your Love
Because you love excitements, you occasionally get involved in forbidden love affairs. You may fall in love with a married person and no one can stop you from making progress. You are very charming, although you might not realize it.
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Is your birthday day 24 of the month?

Your Life
You are very optimistic and that's why you always enjoy life. You are gifted in entertaining others. Your friends love and trust you. You'll be the first they come to when they are in need of someone to speak their heart out.

Your Love
Sometimes you fall in love just because you want to be in love, not that you really like that person. You always be seen as a sweet couple but you can't really get over your love ones from past. Your partner is usually crazy about you because you are remarkably charming and romantic.
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Is your birthday day 25 of the month?

Your Life
You are a warrior. No obstacle can stop you from reaching your goal. You always keep yourself busy. This quality plus your responsibility will eventually bring you success.

Your Love
You adore your partner as the number one priority. You value your love one more than yourself. Your love is the greatest of all and your have potential to get married young.
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Is your birthday day 26 of the month?

Your Life
You are always curious and responsive to changes. Routine life is not the way you choose to live. Travelling is your favorite hobby because excitement is what you are after.

Your Love
You will not stand being around the one you dislike. Your love comes and goes quickly. You can be deeply in love but soon after you will be looking around for the next one.
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Is your birthday day 27 of the month?

Your Life
You are sensitive and vulnerable. Tears often run down your cheeks even when the matter is not that bad. This might be the result from being to pessimistic. You might seem cold on the shell, but your inner self is a kind loving person.

Your Love
You will be elegantly dressed, no matter how casually dressed your date may be. You are emanding in love and sometimes to an unacceptable extend.
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Is your birthday day 28 of the month?

Your Life
You are a capable person but you usually underestimate your own ability. This is the cause of missing numbers of opportunity to step forward. If you try to give yourself a chance, you can be successful in life. Try to see things on the bright side and you will be happier than ever.

Your Love
You are quite unlucky in love. The one in your arm is not the one in your heart. Your love has so many ups and downs. You often chicken out before seeing any progress in love.
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Is your birthday day 29 of the month?

Your Life
You can trust your sixth sense. Life is exciting so routine job is not your interest. You have great ideas and fantastic imagination. You often feel tired of things and people around you.

Your Love
You can tell what's in the mind of another person just from looking into his/her eyes. You are paranoid and jealous and these are the cause of fights between you and your lover. Sometimes the thing you believe in is just your imagination.
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Is your birthday day 30 of the month?

Your Life
You are always surrounded by a circle of friends. You are friendly and fun to be with. Though you occasionally disappoint them by being stubborn, but over all, they love your qualities.

Your Love
You want to have full control of your love and that's not a nice way to treat your partner. You take your time in saying yes to his wedding proposal or if you are a man, you will not propose anyone until you are certainly confident which might take ages.
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Is your birthday day 31 of the month?

Your Life
Your emotion is hard to predict. You can be sad this minute and happy in the next. People might find it difficult to follow your emotion and understand you. You tend to take things seriously.

Your Love
You take your time to study a person before falling in love. Once you decide that he or she is the one, no one can stop you from making progress, even your partner.

Women

2006-05-12T23:19:00.000-07:00

Women

Women are soft to handle but very with hard to break

Safety Tips for free online dating

2006-05-08T09:05:00.000-07:00

Safety Tips for free online dating

Online dating or Internet dating are very popular these days. But online dating has the advantages of its own, it's been misused by many and has its own disadvantages too. Online dating is fun and convienent but still one has to be very careful while dating with someone they hardly know. Here are some tips which may help you to be safe in online dating.

Start slow.

While you are starting a new online dating over the internet, watch out for someone who seems to be good and true. Begin your online dating by communication through Emails. Before Emailing any person besure that your inner instinct is comfortable with the personal ads or online dating profiles. First send a message for the person whom you are interested, Read well and get to know about them through their online dating profile. During the communication through emails watch out for the odd behavior and inconsistencies. Listen to the correspondent's words in email. In Online dating you must listen each and every word carefully. Remember the person whom you corresponds may not be the true man in real. So trust your inner Instincts. If anything makes you uncomfortable walk away from that person for your safety.

Gaurd your personal:

During the online dating process never include your full name, your real email address (if possible create aseperate email address for online dating purposes). Don't give any of your personal details like home address, telephone number, work place or any other identifiable information about you. During email communication be careful about your signatures, because they have your personal details. If possible disable them. Stop communicating with the members who are insisting you for these information or trying to trick you to reveal these informations. Take time to become comfortable with someone before revealing the personal informations. Ask a lot of questions and be sure that the answers are satisfying and without any other second thoughts and meanings.

More to come... Watchout

What is friendship

2006-04-30T09:58:00.000-07:00

What Is Friendship?
Jan Wilson

Friendships are relaxed, loyal relationships that involve intimacy, communication, and empathy. Friendship is a relief. Friends relate.
Friendship is an in-depth, relaxed relationship!
Friends relate.

It is an in-depth relationship combining trust, support, communication, loyalty, understanding, empathy, and intimacy.

These are certainly aspects of life that all of us crave.

Being able to trust and relax with your friend is a big part of friendship.

Remember when you were young and went with a friend to her grandma's for the week-end. It was fun but when you got home, home was wonderful. Your feeling was "I'm home. I can relax now."

That's what a friendship should be.

You go out into the world and do your best. You have your ups and downs, your problems and triumphs, your fun and tribulations. You charm and you perform.

Then you come "home" to a friend. You can relax, put up your feet; you are relieved. If you still have to be charming and/or performing, it's not a relief.

Friendship is a comfy situation like home. You get home, kick off your shoes, relax and sigh, "Ahh, home."

Being able to trust and relax with your best friend is a big part of friendship. Friendships are relationships

But no one can form a friendship until he/she realizes that the basis of being friends is meeting the needs of the other person. One must be a friend to have one.

Never forget that friends relate. Relating is the basis of friendship.

http://www.cyberparent.com/friendship/whatisfriendshipdefined.htm

Forever

2006-04-21T12:18:00.000-07:00

IT'S IMPOSSIBLE TO REACH FOR A STAR AND PLUCK IT OUT OF THE SKY"
BUT IF YOU WANTED ONE, I WOULD NEVERTHELESS GIVE IT A TRY
THERE'S NOT A THING I WOULDN'T ATTEMPT TO DO
IF THE END RESULT PLEASED YOU
I WOULD WISH FOR YOU, EYES THAT SEE ONLY THE TRUTH
I WOULD WISH FOR YOU LOVE THAT NEVER NEEDS PROOF
I WISH FOR YOU A HEART THAT NEVER ACHES
I WISH FOR YOU A HEART THAT NEVER BREAKS
I WISH FOR YOU COUNTLESS MOMENTS FULL OF HOPE, PROMISE AND SWEET DREAMS
I WISH FOR YOU HAPPINESS BURSTING AT THE SEAMS
I WISH FOR YOU TEARS, BUT ONLY OF JOY
I WISH FOR YOU THE INNOCENCE OF YOUR CHILDHOOD WHEN YOU WERE COY
I WISH FOR YOU RAINBOWS TO WASH AWAY YOUR PAIN
I WISH FOR YOU CLEANSING DROPS OF GENTLE RAIN
I PRAY TO THE FORCES ABOVE TO ALWAYS PROTECT YOU
I PRAY THAT NOTHING YOU DESIRE WILL EVER REJECT YOU
I HOPE TENDERNESS WILL FOREVER SURROUND YOU
I HOPE THE MAGIC OF LOVE WILL NEVER CEASE TO ASTOUND YOU
I WISH YOU THE ASSURANCE OF A FUTURE THAT SHINES BRIGHT
I WISH YOU EVERYTHING YOU DESIRE WITH ALL MY MIGHT
I WISH YOU THE PATH THAT ALWAYS LEADS TO RIGHT
I WISH YOU IMMUNITY FROM THE RAVAGES OF LIFE
I WISH FOR YOU THE LEAST AMOUNT OF STRIFE
I WISH FOR YOU A HEART OH SO TRUE
I PROMISE TO ERASE YOUR BLUE
AS PROMISED, AS LONG AS YOU LIVE
AS PROMISED, I FOREVER WILL GIVE
FROM ME THERE WILL NEVER BE ANY REASON FOR AMENDS
AND I'LL MAKE SURE, FOR YOU, THIS POEM NEVER ENDS

Friendship

2006-04-11T09:30:00.000-07:00

Friendship is just like the relationship between Eyes and Hand
When the hand gets hurt its the eye that cries and
When tears come from the eye the hand wipes it..

Casual relationship

2006-04-08T06:34:00.000-07:00

Casual relationship
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

A casual relationship (sometimes referred to as friends with benefits, cut friend, a fling, or fuck buddies) is a term used to describe the physical and emotional relationship between two unmarried people who have a sexual relationship without necessarily demanding or expecting a more formal relationship as a goal.

A casual relationship may be part time, or for a limited time, and may be monogamous or otherwise, and the term encompasses strong enduring friendships between people who enjoy each others closeness but do not seek marriage for some reason, through to relationships purely entered into for sexual purposes. In each case, the relationship's dominance in the lives of those involved, is being voluntarily limited, and there is usually a sense that the relationship is intended to endure only so long as circumstances make possible and both parties wish it to.

Motives for casual relationships vary, and should be distinguished from casual sex in which no relationship is intended. Many casual relationships also include mutual support, affection and enjoyment, which underpin other forms of loving relationship. Some casual relationships eventually do become long-term relationships in the course of time; equally, others were never intended to.

The intent of a casual relationship can vary: sometimes to relieve sexual frustrations through an alternative to masturbation, and other times simply as a friendship or part-time relationship which includes sexual activity when wished. Some people prefer the term "Lovers without commitment". Usually a casual relationship is not intended as a romantic relationship. It is also not the same as 'casual sex'.

In many cases, both parties are free to date and engage in sex acts with other persons, however some people choose to have exclusive casual relationships. These types of relationships effectively give the people involved an outlet for their sexual urges without the potential stress and time-demands of a committed relationship. Two people may elect to become friends with benefits because they are unwilling to commit to a full-fledged relationship or long term relationship for whatever reason.

Popularized in recent years by the US sitcom Sex and the City, this sort of relationship is commonly portrayed as a relatively new phenomenon, but it is not clear as to whether this "newness" applied to the term "friends with benefits" was actually predated by similar yet more secretive arrangements and phrases. These relationships are associated with younger people (early teenagers), and are often seen as a way to enjoy the benefits of sexual activities without the emotional strings of a romantic relationship.

According to many teens, these relationships have been going on for some time, and it is estimated that at least 32% of people over 13 have had such an experience. While providing a sexual outlet for some people, the practice is still socially associated with negative connotations. In teenage relationships, the predominant activity is not traditional intercourse sex, but rather oral sex. Many teenagers believe that this reduces the risks associated with sexual promiscuity such as pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Some medical authorities such as Bonnie Halpern-Felsher, a professor of pediatrics at the University of California at San Francisco, suggests that teenagers do not view oral sex as "real sex" and use it to remain in a state of technical virginity. [1]

This arrangement is particularly common among young professionals, who put a lot of their free time into their work and therefore don't have time for a "proper" boyfriend or girlfriend. Some argue that it also allows people who have excellent sexual chemistry to enjoy each other, even if they don't click on other levels.

The phrase "friends with benefits" was popularized in the mid-1990s by the Alanis Morissette song "Head Over Feet."

Criticisms

Some people prefer the term "Lovers Without Commitment", as it espouses the view the lovemaking is more than a mere benefit of the relationship.

Others believe that casual relationships of this sort are unrealistic because strong emotions will inevitably come into play. Naturally this belief is typically not shared by those who participate in such relationships. It is generally acknowledged, however, that a frequent cause for the termination of such relationships is the development of a one-sided romantic attachment.

It is claimed by some that it is the male who is most often harmed in this kind of relationship. Being a "friend with benefits" is sometimes an option given to the male in a steady relationship after being broken up with. Many times people who love each other will choose this route because current circumstances prohibit a steady relationship. This kind of situation often leads to strengthened bonds and stable relationships after those circumstances pass. Relationships that have sprouted from "friends with benefits" relationships are most of the time more sexually open and stable in their foundations.

The term "friend with benefits" is often misused. A situation similar to the example used above. "Friend with benefits" has been used in a way that would be better described as an "emotional friend with benefits." An example would be a romance that has lost its spark, both parties want the relationship to work, but it cannot. There is no desire even though they both want there to be, so they decide to wait for the spark, together and apart.

Some people think that these sort of relationships are commonly male-dominated and oriented, with the female existing mostly as a sex-object for the male's gratification. However it seems that the female is often the one who initiates the relationship in the first place. This calls into question whether the females are using sex to gain the illusion of affection, avoid loneliness, or perhaps as a stress release. This theory also fails to take into account that many bisexual or lesbian women will participate in these sorts of relationships with each other; hence, these relationships can happen with no male participation at all. Many women also say that they enjoy casual sex just like men, not having to "mean" anything more about it. Probably, traditional cultural or religious values for women and men also come in as factors here.

Penpals or pen friends

2006-04-04T08:39:00.000-07:00

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Pen pal

Pen pals (or penpals or pen friends) are people who regularly write to each other, in particular in the case of snail mail. A penpal relationship is often used to practice writing and reading in a foreign language, improving literacy, to learn more about other countries and life-styles, and to ameliorate loneliness. Some people remain penpals for only a short time, while others continue to exchange letters and presents life-long. Some penpals eventually arrange to meet in 'real-life'. Penpals come in all ages, nationalities and cultures. Being part of a penpal network can be a way to gain a valuable understanding of the world, and an appreciation for cultures and lifestyles very different to your own.

Many people writing to a penpal are not using their native language in their letters.A modern variation on the traditional penpal arrangement is to have a keypal and exchange email addresses as well as or instead of paper letters. This has the advantage of saving money, but also the disadvantage that the communication is very ephemeral. Many people prefer to receive paper letters, gaining the satisfaction of seeing their name carefully printed on a thick envelope in the letterbox. Using snail mail, it is possible to trade postcards, stamps and anything else light and flat enough to fit inside an envelope.

Penpal clubs can be found on the Internet, in magazine columns, newspapers, and sometimes through clubs or special interest groups. Some people are looking for romantic interests, while others just want to find friends. Penpals also make and pass around friendship books. There is also a non-profit humanitarian penpal organisation, Human Writes through which people all over the world correspond with prisoners on US death row (although corresponding with prisoners is popular, care should be taken to follow the rules).

The Australian author Geraldine Brooks wrote a memoir Foreign Correspondence (1997) about her childhood which was enriched by her exchanges of letters with other children both in Australia and overseas and her travels as an adult in search of the people they had become.

Source wikipedia

Love is...

2006-04-04T04:53:00.000-07:00

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Love is...
More beautiful than roses
Much deeper than the seas
Stronger than a hurricane
But timid like a breeze

Real as in a picture
But yet it can't be seen
More beautiful than anything
As vivid as a dream

Love is strong yet delicate.
It can be broken.
To truly love is to understand this.
To be in love is to respect this.

Love feels no burden,
thinks nothing of trouble,
attempts what is above its strength,
pleads no excuse of impossibility...
It is therefore able to undertake all things,
and it completes many things,
and warrants them to take effect,
where he who does not love would faint and lie down.

Love is watchful and sleeping, slumbereth not.
Though weary, it is not tired;
though pressed, it is not straitened;
though alarmed, it is not confounded...

Love is the passion that we feel
inside of our hearts that we can't hide.
We pretend to hide it,
but it burns us more and more
until the pain grows and grows
and it never ends.

Love is...
What makes a weak man brave
And a king step off his throne
Good times, bad times
Easy times, tough times
It comes in an instant
And lasts three days after forever
That's what love is.

Love is not blind -
It sees more and not less,
but because it sees more
it is willing to see less.

Love is like a mountain,
hard to climb,
but once you get to the top
the view is beautiful.

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Best Friends

2006-04-01T01:16:00.000-08:00

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Best Friends

best friends may be a chosen friend with whom one shares a deeper level of understanding, trust, and affection than most others one is close to. best friends may be of the same sex or of the opposite sex. It may also simply be the friend whom one feels is closest or most loyal. The term is usually only used by children.

Best friends usually share and enjoy the same activities; in fact, they often meet while doing an activity that they enjoy and this is the common ground on which the friendship is founded. Best friends often trust each other with information that they would not share with anyone else. Often, best friends will be so close that they will consider themselves as brothers or sisters, depending on their sex.

Someone who is a friend of a particular person who has another 'best friend' may become jealous of that person, particularly if the person is older and different genders are involved.

In some other cultures, such as Russia, the term "friend" is strong enough to qualify as "best friend" in the West. See the Cultural variations of friendship section for more information.

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Dating first time with your date

2006-03-16T05:15:00.000-08:00

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Dating first time with your date - Some Dating tips about what you need to do

Meeting your date first time gives a range of emotional feeling in your mind which will be soo thrilling and also terrifying. Dating with a singles for the first time will make a lot of chemistry changes in our body. At Bepenfriends we give a dating articles in how to tips what will help your first meeting with your date go smoothly:

1) Be on time!

Timeliness is first tip in making your dating experience to go smoothly. Timeliness is expected by other singles with whom you date that day. Being late or too early will create a bad impression on you in their mind. Not always we can be ontime but sometimes it goes out of our control. How to avoid such situation with your first date. Communicate them. In our friendship articles on "Making Friendships Last" we have said that communication is a key for sucessful friendship. That point applies to dating also. Call them before the expected arrival time and tell them about your delay in meeting them. this gives good impression on you that you are serious in the date.

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My First Time

2006-02-28T06:20:00.000-08:00

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My First Time

The sky was dark
The moon was high
All alone just she and I.

Her hair was soft
Her eyes were blue
I knew just what she wanted to do.

Her skin so soft
Her legs so fine
I ran my fingers down her spine.

I didn't know how
But I tried my best
I started by placing my hands on her breast.

I remember my fear my fast beating heart
But slowly she spread her legs apart
And when I did it I felt no shame.

All at once the white stuff came
At last it's finished it's all over now
My first time ever at milking a cow.....

Taken from an email

I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF

2006-02-26T06:07:00.000-08:00

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I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF.....
you have to think before you speak to me!

I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF.....
my presence ever makes you feel uncomfortable!

I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF.....
you have to thank me for everything i do for you!

I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF.....
you have to say sorry for everything that you don't do!

I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF.....
you have to ask me for favours!

I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF.....
you think i would not be curious to know your new philosophy of life!

I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF.....
you go by what i say and do not understand what i don't say!

I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF.....
you think that listening to your dreams would put me to sleep!

I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF.....
you think that seeing you in pain, would not bring a tear to me!

I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF.....
you think I do not remember the first time we met!

I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF.....
you don't see the thousand ways I try to make you happy!

I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF.....
you don't realise how your smile brightens up my day!

I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF.....
you would rather keep quiet when you really wanna talk!

I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF.....
you hesitate to ask me to stay back when you think we should be together!

I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF.....
you take too much time to tell me what i mean to you!

Am I Your FRIEND ????
"A SMILE can Take You MILES...."

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How To Get A Woman's Phone Number And Email Address Within Three Minutes Of Meeting Her

2006-02-24T10:41:00.000-08:00

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How To Get A Woman's Phone Number And Email Address Within Three Minutes Of Meeting Her

By David DeAngelo

Let me start off by telling you something interesting:

I've personally stopped focusing on just getting phone numbers. I've found that EMAIL addresses are far better (I still get the phone number too, of course).

Let me explain.

I perfected the art of getting phone numbers a couple of years ago.

If a woman is single, I can walk up to her and get her number in about a minute or two (if I'm in a hurry). I found out later, after working like a mad scientist on this that GETTING PHONE NUMBERS ALONE DOESNT'T EQUAL SUCCESS.

You see, women have many different reasons for giving out their phone numbers. Some love the attention of having a lot of men call them. Some like to turn guys down. Some are actually interested. But the universal feedback that I get from men, and in my personal experience, women act different on the phone than they do in person.

When you call a woman for the first time, she'll often start acting stand offish or even worse, just plain rude. It's almost like she's a different person than the one you met.

I've found that getting an EMAIL address is not only easier, but it gets more positive responses later on. It's almost as if women appreciate it that you've taken the time to think about what you're going to say when you write an email to them, and they think of you more like someone they know.

The other benefit of email is that it can be written and answered anytime.

If you call, you have to actually reach them. But an email can be answered anytime. And I've found that emails are answered FAR more often than voicemail messages.

HERE'S THE HOW TO:

After I've talked to a woman for about 3 or 4 minutes, I'll often say something like "Well, it was nice meeting you. I'm going to get back to my friends."

They usually don't know what to do, as they're used to guys clinging to them. Most of the time, they say "It was nice meeting you too..." Then, just as I'm turning to walk away, and we kind of disconnect, I turn back and say "HEY! Do you have email?"

The "HEY!" is a bit surprising, and "Do you have email" is non-threatening. In fact, I'm technically asking her if she HAS email, not if she'll GIVE IT TO ME.

If she says "yes," I take out a pen and paper and say "Great, write it down for me" and I have her write it down. (This is great, as I just treat the 'yes' that they give me as a yes to get it from them as well. And they've almost ALL gone along with it so far) Then AS SHE'S IN THE MIDDLE OF WRITING, I say "Write your number down there too."

When you ask for email, it's very low risk for a woman, so she'll think "Fine, I'll do that." Most women will give out an email address without thinking about it, because they know that they can choose later to just not answer.

The magic of asking them to write their phone number down WHILE they're in the middle of writing down their email is all about the psychology of human behavior.

She's already mentally said "OK, I'll give you my email address"... and she's in the middle of writing it down. When you say "And just write your number down there too" it's only NATURAL to just write it.

In other words, it's a MUCH smaller step than giving out the phone number all by itself. It took me a LONG time to figure out this simple move, but it works like magic! You will have women writing their phone numbers down without even thinking twice.

Here's a great add-on to make sure you're getting a real phone number and not a pager or voicemail:

As she's writing down her phone number I say "Is this a number that you actually answer?" If she looks at me and hesitates, or says that it's her "voicemail or pager number," then I say "Look, write your real number down. It's going to be OK, I'll only call you nine times a day..." They laugh and usually give me their real number.

Now, if she answers my first question and says "No, I don't have email" then I bust on them and say "Well, do you have electricity?" This is a GREAT opportunity to use humor.

Then I say "Well, OK then. I like email better, but I'll take your regular phone number. It's so damn hard to reach people on the phone these days."

Just realize that all you have to do is ask.

Like I said, I've tried all kinds of things. And I've gotten hundreds of phone numbers. And I use this exact sequence every time I talk to a woman and I want to get her phone number. I've gotten to the point where I can often do this in a minute or two - no kidding!

Now that you know the sequence, write it down with the words and the steps, and rehearse it in your mind over and over until you know exactly what to say for each step and each response.

Many guys have asked me "But what do I tell her as a reason why I want her number or email?" I've never had a woman ask me. If you ask, and they give it, then she knows why you asked. If she doesn't give it to you, then she also knew why you asked.

Just assume that this is the case.

If you ask every time, and you do it in a smooth, assuming, calm way, you'll get a lot of emails and phone numbers.

Note: Carry a pen on you at all times. I prefer the Fisher Space Pen (chrome) because it's small, classy, and women love it!

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How to write a good online dating profile

2006-02-11T11:21:00.000-08:00

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How to write a good online dating profile

A profile is to online dating what fuel is to a car. You need a good profile for time spent on a dating site to be worth your while. Basically, what you put in is what you get out of creating your profile. A little extra effort would go a long way. The following are points you should keep in mind.

Post photos. Despite glaring advantages, many people still do not post photos. It cannot be stressed enough how important a picture is in a profile. Your picture should show how you really look. It should neither be a polished glamor shot, nor a bad blurry photo. In addition to a head shot, you should also post full body shots. In general, better pictures directly translate into more people viewing your profile. When writing your profile, if there are things you do regularly, such as jogging, coffee-drinking, or perhaps things you cannot do without, like pets, being a vegan, a night owl, etc, include them in your profile. You don't want these things to become a bone of contention later.

Stay away from writing in an aggressive, or whiney tone. If you portray an aggressive nature, most users would move on to the next profile. In the same vein, using demeaning language, or engaging in self-aggrandizement would turn most people off. There is a thin line between confidence and shameless showboating.

How long should your profile be? The suggestion is, neither too short, nor too long. A very short profile that is, say, one sentence long, is unlikely to provide adequate information to convince somebody about taking the next step of contacting you.

The other extreme is a profile that goes on and on. Remember that people have hundreds, if not thousands of other profiles to read. If yours doesn't get to the point quickly, the reader's patience may run out, causing him/her to abandon your profile.

The best profile is a good synopsis of your important personal characteristics, as well as the characteristics you expect from the person you're looking for.If you are still at a loss on how to write a good profile, talk to people who have successfully met people online. You may be surprised what you learn.

The bottomline is, anything worth doing, is worth doing well. Your profile is a window into your world. It makes all the difference between getting no responses, and getting a lot. The latter of course is your goal, otherwise why be on a dating site at all.

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friendship and penfriendship

2006-02-05T22:45:00.000-08:00

Some Quotes about friends

"True friendship is like sound health; the value of it is seldom known until it be lost." -- Charles Caleb Colton

"Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born." Anais Nin "My friends are my estate." -- Emily Dickinson

"A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out."
"A friend is one who walks in when others walk out" -Walter Winchell

"A friend is someone who is there for you when he'd rather be anywhere else."
- Len Wein

What it means to love

2006-01-22T17:30:00.000-08:00

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What it means to love... not only for lovers but for friends.. too

"LOVE"

When you think of your past love, you may view it as a failure. But when you find a new love, you view the past as a teacher. In the game of love, it doesn't really matter who won or who lost. What is important is you know when to hold on and when to let go! You know you really love someone when you want him or her to be happy, even if their happiness means that you're not part of it. Everything happens for the best. If the person you love doesn't love you back, don't be afraid to love someone else again, for you'll never know unless you give it a try. You'll never love a person you love unless you risk for love. Love strives in hurting. If you don't get hurt, you don't learn how to love. Love doesn't hurt all the time ..

Though the hurting is still there to test you, to help you grow. Don't find love, let love find you. That's why it's called falling in love because you don't force yourself to fall. You just fall. You cannot finish a book without closing it's, chapters. If you want to go on, then you have to leave the past as you turn the pages.

Love is not destroyed by a single failure or won by a single caress. It is a lifetime venture in which we are always learning, discovering and growing. The greatest irony of love is letting go when you need to hold on and holding on when you need to let go. We lose someone we love only when we are destined to find someone else who can love us even more than we can love ourselves. On falling out of love, take some time to heal and then get back on the horse. But don't ever make the same mistake of riding the same one that threw you the first time.

To love is to risk rejection, to live is to risk dying, to hope is to risk failure. But risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is risk nothing! To reach for another is to risk involvement, to expose your feelings is to expose true self. To love is to risk not to be loved in return. How to define love: fall but do not stumble, be constant but not too persistent, share and never be unfair, understand and try not to demand, hurt but never keep the pain. Love is like a knife. It can stab the heart or it can carve wonderful images into the soul that always last for a lifetime.

Love is supposed to be the most wonderful feeling. It should inspire you and give you joy and strength. But sometimes the things that give you joy can also hurt you in the end. Loving people means giving them the freedom who they choose to be and where they choose to be. For all the heartaches and the tears, for gloomy days and fruitless years, you should give thanks, for you know, that there were the things that helped you grow .Loving someone means giving him the freedom to find his way, whether it leads towards you or away from you. Love is a painful risk to take but the risk must be taken no matter how scary or painful, for only then you'll experience the fullness of humanity and that is love. Only love can hurt your heart, fill you with desire and tear you apart. Only love can make you cry and only love knows why. If you're not ready to cry, if you're not ready to take the risk, if you're not ready to feel the pain, then you're not ready to fall in love. There was a time in our lives when we became afraid to fall in love because every time we do, we get hurt, then I figured that's why it's called falling in love.....

Whatever happens, don't give up! It is just a trial.
whew i hope that wasnt too much ...

sanjana

Collected from an Email

True Friendship - Real Help in needed time

2005-03-02T01:41:00.000-08:00

True Friendship - Real Help in needed time

A real true friendship offer helping hands to the friends who are in trouble. As I said it as a solution for problems, true friends are also the helpers for others. Friends never let us go sink into problems. Instead friends try to rescue us from problem by helping us. With friends and friendship there will be a common bonding named helping. Friends never runaway from problem of other friends.

Real and true friendship involves freedom of choice, accountability, truth, and forgiveness. Real friendship looks at the heart, not just the "packaging." Genuine friendship loves for love's sake, not just for what it can get in return. True friendship is both challenging and exciting. It risks, it overlooks faults, and it loves unconditionally, but it also involves being truthful, even though it may hurt. Genuine friendship, also called "agape" love, comes from the Lord. When we've offended a true friend - whether by breaking a trust or by speaking the truth with love - we risk losing that friendship. We must be careful not to break the trust. But when not speaking the truth will cause greater hurt in our friend's life, we must be willing to sacrifice our needs for those of our friend. That is true friendship.

So never offend any true friendship try to get more true friendships in this earth

True Friendship - Solution to every problems

2005-02-28T00:24:00.000-08:00

True Friendship - Solution to every problems

If you have a true friendship with some singles or personals, then you don't need to worry about any problems that you face. A true friendship is offen refered to the solutions that a person needs. When we are in trouble we can ask for soluton to the trustable true friends and friendship only. We can't expose our problems to others who are not having true friendship with us. But when we discuss our problem we get a solution from our friends, friends never expose our weekness and try to hide them from coming out. They give better solution than others. We can discuss any problem with friends who are true in their friendship.

True Friendship - Relationship, Trust, Accountability

2005-02-26T02:03:00.000-08:00

True Friendship - Relationship, Trust, Accountability

True friendship involves relationships. Those mutual attributes we mentioned above become the foundation in which recognition transpires into relationship. Many people say, "Oh, he's a good friend of mine," yet they never take time to spend time with that "good friend." Friendship takes time: time to get to know each other, time to build shared memories, time to invest in each other's growth.

Trust is essential to true friendship. We all need someone with whom we can share our lives, thoughts, feelings, and frustrations. We need to be able to share our deepest secrets with someone, without worrying that those secrets will end up on the Internet the next day! Failing to be trustworthy with those intimate secrets can destroy a friendship in a hurry. Faithfulness and loyalty are key to true friendship. Without them, we often feel betrayed, left out, and lonely. In true friendship, there is no backbiting, no negative thoughts, no turning away.

True friendship requires certain accountability factors. Real friends encourage one another and forgive one another where there has been an offense. Genuine friendship supports during times of struggle. Friends are dependable. In true friendship, unconditional love develops. We love our friends no matter what and we always want the best for our friends.

True Friendships - How to Get true Friends and friendships

2005-02-25T04:15:00.001-08:00

True Friendship - Recognition

How can we find true friendships in this fast and selfish world. This world is not a permenent world and our life in this tempory world is very short like a thin string tied between two edges. In this time how can we find friends and friendships which is true and trustable. Friendships involves recognition or familarity with another's personality. Friends must share likes and dislikes, interest, views, passion of their life and world. This gives a lot of recognition with the person whom we need have friendship.

How can we recognize potential friendship? There is a lot of symptoms which includes mutual desire for companionship and perhaps a common bond in some topics similar to each other. Beyond that a genuine and mutual friendship involves a shared sense of caring and concern, a desire to see one another grow and develop, and a hope for each other to succeed in all aspects of life. True friendshipinvolves action: doing something for someone else while expecting nothing in return; sharing thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment or negative criticism.

Friendship is courage

2005-02-23T22:34:00.000-08:00

Friendship is courage...

Friends, They are the only source of our brave hearts. When we don't have any friends we won't come out when there is a trouble. But when we have friends with us, We never sit inside during a friend is in problem. We may not be brave but friendship gives courage to our mind and body. Friends will save us from any situations. Friends will help us to escape from big troubles. Friends will come front to solve the problems. Friendship never knows to runaway during problems. A good friend stays when there is problem and goes after the problem solves.

We can tell a lot about friendship and friends. You may have a lot of friends but try to get a friend who is loyal, trustable to us and be like that to your friend also. That is the only meaning of friendship. "BE LOYAL AND TRUSTABLE". I would like to have some comments for these topics. Comment me with your ideas and thoughts

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Friendship is everlasting

2005-02-23T02:40:00.000-08:00

Friendship is everlasting...

Friendship is only everlasting feature in this world. There may be biggest miracle which can change the entire world but even in that miracle also friendship will come out from its sleep. Friendship is like a banyan tree. Banyan tree seed is very small, but when it comes out of earth nothing can stop its growth. The same applies to friendship also. Friendship will reside in our heart like the banyan tree seed. When it finds the correct soil in another heart it starts its growth. at one stage when you get more friendly with that person it will become tree after that nothing in this world can stop it. Friends will try to find new ways to make you not to fall. Friends may not save but they never let you go to deep. Friends find innovative ways to stop you from falling and try to get some more help to lift you.

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Friendship is a blessing...

2005-02-21T20:14:00.001-08:00

Friendship is a blessing...

Friendship is a blessing, and a friend is the channel through whom great emotional, spiritual, and sometimes even physical blessings flow. Friends will cheer us when we’re sorrowful or depressed. Friends will challenge us to attain our orginal limits with encouragement when we allow ourselves not to go beyond our reasonable boundaries. Friends will motivate us when we’re ready to give in, and they can provide for us when life falls apart. Friends are there when all is well, and we want someone with whom to share life’s pleasant and memorable moments. We often just want them around, to have a good time, to laugh, to act silly, to enjoy some mutually liked activity. In how many ways have friends enriched our lives and made us feel loved, accepted, respected and cared for? Probably, too many to list, and the list grows daily.

When you act silly with friends around they also comes and join you and get the enjoyment that you are getting. In the dictionary of friendship there is no word named sorrow. Friends will enter into that word and friends break the word into peices. They motivate us to attain our goal. They will stand by our side when you need a support. you will tell about a girl/guy whom you love and will ask for help for the love. You can't tell the same to parents or any other before the love starts. In our life deciding factor also there is a friend and his/her friendship is helping you. When you get problem in that love all others will run from u but not your bet friend. They help us by challenging( a challenge which motivates us) and also motivates us for reaching our aim.

When you are in college or studies you ask doubts in the subjects not to the professor but to a friend. Friends never says no to anything. They will try to help us and try to solve the doubts. When you play a friend is the first person to cheer you when you do a record. Friends will be the first to treat us without any jealous mind. friends consider the record of yours as theirs and they feel happy by telling about the record to others. In life we share most of the time with friends. We can't share some topics with our parents but we can share any topic, with friends. friends research that topic as a judge and tell us the good's and bad's

Friends and Friendship- Who is friends, What is friendship

2005-02-20T20:52:00.000-08:00

Who is friends and what is meaning of friends
A lot of people go through life with only a few friends. It seems that some have less than that. They have no one on whom they can call in good times or bad. There is no one with whom to bounce ideas around, or to talk about deep and troubling subjects. They have no one to call in times of need or difficulty. They are at the mercy of life, standing alone.

Others seem to have a multiple number of friends like google's PageRank which increases in cumulative. Wherever they go, people know them, and like to be around them. when a trouble strike, their biggest hesitation might be over which friend to call. They know exactly the person with whom to discuss the topics of inquiry and debate. Life is full of entertaining and invigorating relationships because it is full of friends. These friends will be like a Degree course in friendship.. When we study them we get lot of knowledge about friendship. They have a lot of ideas flowing and they discuss any topic which is hard to discuss.

Of course, some people are perfectly happy to operate with fewer friends. They might rather have a few deep and loyal friends, than many superficial ones. Others thrive best when friends are everywhere and numerous. It is not so much the number of friends that is important as is the possession of friends, period. Loyal and deep friendship is good. It doesn't care about the numbers, Even if you have one loyal trustable friend. it is better than to have hundreds of untrustable, superficial friends. With the trusted friends we can discuss our problem areas and get ideas for solving them also. These friends share their time with us to solve problems. But when you have lots of friends who are not loyal or trustable it is the case of the person who is not having any friends. Even after having hundreds of friends our mind can't able to find real, trustable friends.

Continued....

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Long distance friends and Long term friendship

2005-02-14T00:50:00.000-08:00

Long distance friends and Long term friendship
We may get a lot of short term friendship which is like getting into theater and leaving after the show is over. These will not stay in our hearts. But when we get a long term friendships It stays in the mind and brain. Long term friendships will emerge from those who are in regular contacts and near by. Long distance relationships rarely survive for a long time. It is like "I will think about my long distance friend may be once in a year". In this friendship also there is some exceptions. People who is in regular contact with each other will get a long term friendship. They will think about friendships a lot more than others. Friends who are in least physical distance gets a everlasting friendship than a long distance friendship. But for some long term friendship Distance is not a major factor. Even after being seperated from thousand miles away people stay as friends forever.

Communication with Friend and long term friendship

For getting good long term friendship communication and effort of strengthening friendship is the key component. Friendship will survive when there is a regular contacts. In this Information world there is lot of ways for communications. Cards, Emails, Short messages, gifts, get-together, Telephones and a lot of ways. We need to keep our childhood friends also. It is important for continuty in our lives.The childhood memories are unforgettable for any person in this world. The most enjoyable time in our entire life is during childhood days. When we get friends during that time will also be ever enjoyable. There are many friends who used to send lot og greetings, some forwarded message from one friend to another. These persons really interested in our friendship and tries to keep our friendship alive. If you don't have anything to say to your friend, Just say a "HI". It will keep you in touch with the friends.Emails is great! It helps us a lot in keeping our friendship alive. A written communication is a precious jewel in our friendship. The same is for phone cal. When we are doing these two things, we think about the friendship between us not the other things. In our mind nothing comes thank our friendship. So Communication is a must in long term friendships. There is another biggest jewel in the Friendships which is precious than kohinoor diamond. It is sharing physical vibration in same room and experienceing with all your senses. Visit the long distance friend once in a while. make some time for meeting him physically rather than sending emails. It creates a lot of surpraises by strengthing your friendships and never let it die. A physical contact is a best way to express ourselves that "I CARE OUR FRIENDSHIP". try to make a visit to your long distance, long term friendships.

Conclusion

Close distance friendships tend to survive as long term friendships and also the friendships which are in regular contact will also help in long term friendship. Friendships which is lasting for lifetime is very precious in this fast running world and also it is very important to have atleast some long term friendship because they are the friends who give their shoulders for us when we are in need of support.

So have you found what will be the answers for the above questions. The answer is very simple and easy. its "COMMUNICATION". Communication is a best way to keep friendships survive. tell a thanks to Alexander Graham Bell, Tim berners lee and others who created the devices for effective communication and find long term friendships

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True Friendships - How to Get true Friends and friendships. How true friends will be

2005-02-12T22:00:00.000-08:00

True Friendships - How to Get true Friends and friendships

True Friendship - Recognition

How can we find true friendships in this fast and selfish world. This world is not a permenent world and our life in this tempory world is very short like a thin string tied between two edges. In this time how can we find friends and friendships which is true and trustable. Friendships involves recognition or familarity with another's personality. Friends must share likes and dislikes, interest, views, passion of their life and world. This gives a lot of recognition with the person whom we need have friendship.

How can we recognize potential friendship? There is a lot of symptoms which includes mutual desire for companionship and perhaps a common bond in some topics similar to each other. Beyond that a genuine and mutual friendship involves a shared sense of caring and concern, a desire to see one another grow and develop, and a hope for each other to succeed in all aspects of life. True friendshipinvolves action: doing something for someone else while expecting nothing in return; sharing thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment or negative criticism.

True Friendship - Relationship, Trust, Accountability

True friendship involves relationships. Those mutual attributes we mentioned above become the foundation in which recognition transpires into relationship. Many people say, "Oh, he's a good friend of mine," yet they never take time to spend time with that "good friend." Friendship takes time: time to get to know each other, time to build shared memories, time to invest in each other's growth.

Trust is essential to true friendship. We all need someone with whom we can share our lives, thoughts, feelings, and frustrations. We need to be able to share our deepest secrets with someone, without worrying that those secrets will end up on the Internet the next day! Failing to be trustworthy with those intimate secrets can destroy a friendship in a hurry. Faithfulness and loyalty are key to true friendship. Without them, we often feel betrayed, left out, and lonely. In true friendship, there is no backbiting, no negative thoughts, no turning away.

True friendship requires certain accountability factors. Real friends encourage one another and forgive one another where there has been an offense. Genuine friendship supports during times of struggle. Friends are dependable. In true friendship, unconditional love develops. We love our friends no matter what and we always want the best for our friends.

True Friendship - Solution to every problems

If you have a true friendship with some singles or personals, then you don't need to worry about any problems that you face. A true friendship is offen refered to the solutions that a person needs. When we are in trouble we can ask for soluton to the trustable true friends and friendship only. We can't expose our problems to others who are not having true friendship with us. But when we discuss our problem we get a solution from our friends, friends never expose our weekness and try to hide them from coming out. They give better solution than others. We can discuss any problem with friends who are true in their friendship.

True Friendship - Real Help in needed time

A real true friendship offer helping hands to the friends who are in trouble. As I said it as a solution for problems, true friends are also the helpers for others. Friends never let us go sink into problems. Instead friends try to rescue us from problem by helping us. With friends and friendship there will be a common bonding named helping. Friends never runaway from problem of other friends.

Real and true friendship involves freedom of choice, accountability, truth, and forgiveness. Real friendship looks at the heart, not just the "packaging." Genuine friendship loves for love's sake, not just for what it can get in return. True friendship is both challenging and exciting. It risks, it overlooks faults, and it loves unconditionally, but it also involves being truthful, even though it may hurt. Genuine friendship, also called "agape" love, comes from the Lord. When we've offended a true friend - whether by breaking a trust or by speaking the truth with love - we risk losing that friendship. We must be careful not to break the trust. But when not speaking the truth will cause greater hurt in our friend's life, we must be willing to sacrifice our needs for those of our friend. That is true friendship.

So never offend any true friendship try to get more true friendships in this earth.

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Friendship, The Hidden treasure for human kind, Friends the diamonds in the crown of Friendship

2005-02-12T20:33:00.000-08:00

Penfriends - one name for the friendship which we create with a person whose face is faraway from us. This friendship is created between two singles by hearts not by skin. There is a lot of names for penfriends, names like penpals, personals are refereing penfriends only. Getting a friend or group of friends is not a easy job for mankind. For getting a friendship from one person from heart the people must work a lot for that.

There is a lot of ways to get introduced to other singles or personals. some traditional ways is getting introduction by our own friend to their friends group. This method is very old method of getting introduced. There is a small problem with this kind of introduction. we may be of good character for our own friend, But we cannot think like that for his/her friends. At that time not only our relationship with those new friends group broke but also the friendship of our own friend with them also brokes.

In this internet world there is more ways to get ourselves introduced to others. Some are by groups. There is a lot of penfriends group where we get friendship by emails, Some use the chatrooms. If we log into any chatrooms like yahoo chat and msn chat we can see a lot of people who is chatting with their new friends.

After getting introduced these friends try to make the relationship more stronger by constant communication through telephone, emails, shareing gifts etc. Once they get comfortable with the person they try to meet in real to know each other better.

Friendship is a gift of mankind. Since we have a good friendship heart only we live in this world. Without good heart we can't go anywhere. People will ignore us and won't help us when we are in trouble. Friendship is between two minds, It involves a lot of emotional feelings. When you have a friend who can share your feelings, you will be the happiest person in this world. when we have a friend they never let us alone.

Life without a good friend is meaningless. For getting a good penfriend or a penpals we need to work hard with pure friendly heart. Getting a person as a penfriend by mouth is simple. But for getting a penfriend who tells you as a friends from heart will last long for Life.Penfriendship is a best method to know each and every person mind because friends comes with different character which we don't know.

There is a lot of singles who meet as a strangers first then get friendship and get married. In this kind of friendship both the person will know each other better. When you marry and give the status as a lifepartner to a person who know about you fully, then that relationship bonding never fails at any cost.

Love is also one kind of friendship where the personals who are in love will open their heart to others which is also happening in friendship. Friends are the best ways to find a persons character. By looking into your friends circle any one can tell about you and your character. So only There is a english proverb with a meaning of "Tell your Friends, I will tell your character.". There is some different persons in the friendship circle. A person who is having only bad friends may also live as good. A person whose friends are good may also lead to bad life. It changes depending upon person to person.

Friends will giveup anything to others but not their friendship. Friends or pals comes with you where ever you go. We may have a lot of Friends during our happy times. But the person who stays with us during our sad times is the only best friend or friends we got. As we said friendship lies in hearts, when the heart is sad the friend must comfort that heart.

Friends bring joy to the mind. They takes all our sorrows by giving happy times. Friendship never expect anything from us, Instead it gives everything that we ask. meaning of true friendship lies in this. When a friend expects something from us then there is some problem in our relationship. friendship means sharing. No one can bet us that we don't know anything about our friends. If we don't know about friends whom we have then we are not considering them as true friends. There won't be any secrets in the life of friends. friends share everything within friendship.

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Penfriends, Place where penpals and friends meet and share their friendly hearts

2005-02-12T20:31:00.000-08:00

BEPenfriends, for penfriends, penpals, dating, singles communication, match makeing or friendship or any other name that is used to refer the friendship between two minds.Penfriends or a penpals is a best way to have a innovative and exploring life. A singles or couples without friends is living a meaningless life in this world. Getting a friend is very simple.

Life without a good friend is meaningless. For getting a good penfriend or a penpals we need to work hard with pure friendly heart. Getting a person as a penfriend by mouth is simple. But for getting a penfriend who tells you as a friends from heart will last long for Life.

Penfriendship is a best method to know each and every person mind because friends comes with different character which we don't know. For exploring the mind without seeing the face is best means. By the mails or letters which we write and get we get the character of the opposite personal.

There is a lot of method to get penfriends and exploring friendship. One simple means is registering ourselves with some penfriendship portal. There is a lot of portals which are genuine but they are of like business minded person. They never care about what u say and what happenes with friendship. Now a person in england was rejected from the portal because he was trying to have more than sex in his first date with the girls he meet.

There is some different person who meet in Internet and speak through chat and exchange their viewsf friendship and world and became life partners after knowing each others fully. Personals come to know each other by emails and gifts they share amoung themselves and then they become friends for life. This kind of friendship is not occuring for all but a very few members are very lucky with that.

In this friendship both singles may become couples after a particular time of years or even months, and they live happy for entire life. Their heart knows about the person who he/she is going to choose and there won't be any secreats between them.

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